If you are like most folks, you are fully aware of the rules and requirements for giving wedding gifts, however, engagement gift etiquette is an entirely different story altogether. In the day and age of online shopping, and bridal registries, savvy couples have made it simple and easy for guests to give them exactly what they want and need as a wedding gift. If history has taught us anything, it’s taught us that you should send a congratulatory note to a couple after their engagement has been announced. On the other hand, a gift would be a more thoughtful and generous gesture.

According to wedding experts, the bride and groom should not be under the impression that they will receive engagement gifts. The first rule of engagement gift etiquette is that the bride and groom view the gift as an added bonus and not an absolute must. You see, guests are responsible for traveling to the wedding location, food, a wedding gift, and let’s not forget everything the wedding party has to pay for including dresses and tuxedos. As it turns out, a wedding can drain the accounts of everyone involved.

If you have a particularly close relationship with the bride and groom such as a sibling or best friend, a small token of your love and excitement for them is appropriate. It’s not required that you bring a gift to the engagement party, however if you choose to, here’s a few ideas to help you give a gift that is suitable. As newlyweds they may enjoy a couples cooking class, a membership to a wine club, or a gift certificate to a couples massage or spa retreat. Engagement gift etiquette is quite simple – just remember it’s not required, but would be a kind and good hearted thing to do.